Marriages and Astrology - An Opinion

By Sri Chiraan 2009/03/15

Many a times we see people claim marriages are made in heaven. 

• Then we see many people clamouring after women folks to marry them. 
• Parents of eligible girls flock around to get a suitable match for their daughters.
• In the process many seems to be strongly opining their likes and dislikes wrt each groom or bride. 

If marriages were to be made in heaven, does this not seem to be a superfluous exercise?

• Just wait for a right right time and the prospective people would be married? Is it possible. Do we believe in it? 
• If marriages are made in heaven then why at all we see a break in a marriage?
• If marriages are made in heaven why does one goes through so much of grind in identifying prospective groom or bride.
• Finally almost every star matches with other star in some way or the other does that mean people of these stars eventually marry.
• Even after astrologer proclaims a match is good, people don't’ marry, talks fall off.
• Even after horoscopes don't match people marry.
• Some elope to marry.
• Some suffer in marriage.
• Some elate in marriage.
• Some marry to be happy ever after!!! What’s so heavenly about it,  how astrologer can say whether the two horoscopes in question will definitely marry or not?

Does astrology have answers to all this?

When two horoscope are matched, its the nimmitta that suggests that whether the marriage will occur or not. The position held by the messenger speaks a lot about the marital proceedings. The nadi of astrologer primarily holds sway on the marriage to be solemned. Also muhurtha chosen sometimes lays foundation for destroyed marriages. Called off baraats.

There are three types of people in this world: 

For the first category marriages are indeed made in heaven. These people need not worry about their marriages, they invariably marry those they are destined to, whether the world agrees or not, whether it is practical or or not, or however impossible, the marriage takes place even if these two prospective groom and bride live at the opposite pole of earth, they marry, simply because they are destined.

The second type undergoes marriage yoga every 10 years and every month in a year. These people if make an effort end up marrying someone or the other, and its the muhurtha of the marriage that determines the qualities of this marriage. Here marriages are not made in heaven. Its the instantaneous karma that brings about such union.

The third type of people, marriages are only meant to give unhappiness. Such people invariable marry wrong types, get deceived in marriage. Marriage is a curse for them, they suffer for it. It is their destiny to suffer.

Most of the males if born as females in this birth, marry only for convenience, and rarely there is any sense of belonging between the pairs. 

For those who have been not lucky to have a partner born for them, usually with remedial measures marry the second types. 

So the real true devotees of God need not worry about the marriage at all. Just wait for heavens to shower the blessings. But excessive contemplation will result in early marriage with the second types. So choice is yours.

Krishnarpana

Astrology and importance of efforts

By Sri Chiraan 2008/10/21 

Astrological charts shows the effects of past karma. What is past karma, the deeds we have done through mind, speech and actions in the past lives. Are we not doing anything in this life as karma? Does this mean whatever Pooja, prayers ,good deeds I am doing now are only for next life? why then astrologers suggest remedy ? remedy that we do now are they not karma,do they give effect in this life or next life?

Most of these questions we have answered in this article that karmas done in this life also contribute to the present and alters effects we reap now, but when things go wrong even after extreme efforts, we leave it to fate and become passive. Does shastras permit such kind of behaviour. is there any incident highlighting this conclusion.

We shall examine few incidence :

1. Dharmashastra says whatever lost in the gamble or whatever given to a wife can be taken back ,and should not be considered as commitment. Hence when Yudhisthira lost his Kingdom in a gamble to kauravas. He could have claimed it back. Even Vidur suggests Dhritarashtra to return Kingdom on account of above shastra. Bheemasena asks his brother Yudhistira to attack Hastinapur after 12 months of vanvasa, here for the purpose of keeping dharma 12 months of vanvasa was enough to have undergone 12 years (there are many types of years in astrology, chandra, saura, btahaspatya, nakshatri, savanmana, pitrumana, devmana, bramhamana, varying in number of days in a year, for various occasions various years need to be considered). This is dharma [right conduct]. But Yudhistira refuses (a tendency for lack of efforts). Finally when vanvasa is over Duryodhana refuses to accept chandraman, because he follows saura mana solar year of 365days, and according to him 12+1 years was not yet over still few months left, thus war breaks out due to dispute.
2. Hanuman was a great astrologer too. He knew Ravana was to be killed by Rama, so even if he was capable of killing Ravana, he spared him many times. Yet when Ravan was taking away Seeta Devi, both Hanuman and Sugreeva watch him take away, since Rama had not yet approached Sugreeva, he preferred inaction, But Hanuman flew immediately (here Ramayana would have been over even before Rama meets Sugreeva), so Sugreeva stops him as an order from the king, Hanuman was minister. 
3. Bheemasena and Duryodhana both were special beings as they did not require formal education to get their respective knowledge. Hence both from the day 1 of the birth knew that they were rivals and wanted to kill each other. Bheemasena had he been eldest among Pandavas, would have killed Duryodhana the day he was born, such is his zeal to perform duty towards the Lord Krishna. Yudhistira being eldest stops time and again to stretch Mahabharath to point where it is fought when Arjuna was 68 years old. Duryodhan was 70 years of age at the time of war.
4. Lord Krishna makes an effort for peace between Kauravas and Pandavas, (though HE knew there would be a war eventually according to the great prediction of VedVyasa, who had written Mahabharath even before Bheeshma was born). He made an effort by selecting a suitable muhurtha named “maitra” on a Dwadashi  day. He went to Hastinapur proposed peace but was rejected and insulted by Shakuni.

 (Can we imagine God himself making a vain effort!)

1. When vastraharan of Draupadi Devi was taking place, Draupadi devi had her fists completely clenching her sari (a sign of doubt on God and extreme confidence on one’s own strength, so that if god does not come to help at least I can still hold on to the saree and avoid being stripped) as Dushyasana was pulling it. Draupadi Devi was praying for help to Krishna, who had not yet come. Slowly Draupadi Devi realised she would not be able to hold on to the clasp of saree for long and hence she leaves the clasp and raises both hands to completely depend on God for help. Here Krishna appears losing no time and supplies reams of saree such that her honour is saved and Dushyasan faints.

From above incidents we can conclude that, though astrology says (according to our past karma) we do not have luck to succeed immediately, we should not remain passive like Yudhistira and Sugreeva, but when it comes to duty we must immediately rush for it, irrespective of good days and bad days, irrespective of chances of success or failure according to Astrology (if there is no chance of success, we need not avoid a duty [avashya karma]) like Hanuman and Bheemasena. If there is really a destiny to negate our efforts then it would come in a Godly inspiration as in forms of Yudhistira as elder brother, or Sugreeva as a superior authority, and we are spared from the clutches of karma. If destiny is favourable we shall succeed.

Effort is an Effort, it should be made sincerely with all the might and force. Situation like good time and bad time should not downsize our efforts especially those which are our prime duty. Success and failures are subject to God’s will. What counts for a soul is only efforts. In Bhagavadgeeta Arjuna asks "Hey Krishna what use is killing all my brethren and preceptors and relatives and friends, all I would get is only a kingdom that would end with my death as well is this war really worth it", Krishna says to Arjuna, "hey Arjun even if you don’t fight, I would still get all these people killed and that too by your own hands, but you shall go to hell for not obeying me. And you shall face disgrace in history for your cowardice too. But if willingly you fight you would attain my grace."

A soul’s Karma is judged more on the basis of his efforts rather than outcome of his karma

Sri krishnarpana