Marriages and Astrology - An Opinion

By Sri Chiraan 2009/03/15

Many a times we see people claim marriages are made in heaven. 

• Then we see many people clamouring after women folks to marry them. 
• Parents of eligible girls flock around to get a suitable match for their daughters.
• In the process many seems to be strongly opining their likes and dislikes wrt each groom or bride. 

If marriages were to be made in heaven, does this not seem to be a superfluous exercise?

• Just wait for a right right time and the prospective people would be married? Is it possible. Do we believe in it? 
• If marriages are made in heaven then why at all we see a break in a marriage?
• If marriages are made in heaven why does one goes through so much of grind in identifying prospective groom or bride.
• Finally almost every star matches with other star in some way or the other does that mean people of these stars eventually marry.
• Even after astrologer proclaims a match is good, people don't’ marry, talks fall off.
• Even after horoscopes don't match people marry.
• Some elope to marry.
• Some suffer in marriage.
• Some elate in marriage.
• Some marry to be happy ever after!!! What’s so heavenly about it,  how astrologer can say whether the two horoscopes in question will definitely marry or not?

Does astrology have answers to all this?

When two horoscope are matched, its the nimmitta that suggests that whether the marriage will occur or not. The position held by the messenger speaks a lot about the marital proceedings. The nadi of astrologer primarily holds sway on the marriage to be solemned. Also muhurtha chosen sometimes lays foundation for destroyed marriages. Called off baraats.

There are three types of people in this world: 

For the first category marriages are indeed made in heaven. These people need not worry about their marriages, they invariably marry those they are destined to, whether the world agrees or not, whether it is practical or or not, or however impossible, the marriage takes place even if these two prospective groom and bride live at the opposite pole of earth, they marry, simply because they are destined.

The second type undergoes marriage yoga every 10 years and every month in a year. These people if make an effort end up marrying someone or the other, and its the muhurtha of the marriage that determines the qualities of this marriage. Here marriages are not made in heaven. Its the instantaneous karma that brings about such union.

The third type of people, marriages are only meant to give unhappiness. Such people invariable marry wrong types, get deceived in marriage. Marriage is a curse for them, they suffer for it. It is their destiny to suffer.

Most of the males if born as females in this birth, marry only for convenience, and rarely there is any sense of belonging between the pairs. 

For those who have been not lucky to have a partner born for them, usually with remedial measures marry the second types. 

So the real true devotees of God need not worry about the marriage at all. Just wait for heavens to shower the blessings. But excessive contemplation will result in early marriage with the second types. So choice is yours.

Krishnarpana

7th House - Husband

By Sri Chiraan 2009/01/05

In stree jataka [female horoscopy], the planet in the seventh navamsa or the lord of seventh navamsha decides the quality of the husband. 

• If Sun is in the seventh or sun is the lord of the seventh then the husband will be of  very tender body or quiet spoken, mild man. He will be a very hard worker. [atimrudu, ati karmi].
• If Moon be similarly placed or if seventh house is Cancer in the amsha, the husband will be one who will hanker after other women, he will also look after his wife well, he will be kind hearted soft personality.
• If Mars is present in the seventh house the husband will be very loving towards women, he will be easily given to anger and rash personality.
• If Mercury is in the seventh amsha or Virgo/Gemini is the seventh house then her husband will be a scholar, he will have a good sense of humour, if well placed he may a trader or accountant, when in the amsha of the Venus it will give persons well versed in arts.
• If Jupiter becomes the owner of the seventh navamsha, the husband will be highly educated, blessed with many good qualities, and will have his senses and under control, will never look at other woman .
• If Saturn happens to be lord of seventh then the husband will either be a fool or the age difference between husband and wife will very high. He will be  a old man. If it is Ketu then he will be impotent. If with Rahu he will be already married to someone else.
• If Venus is the lord of the seventh navamsha then husband will be very handsome and will be very fortunate person. He will have excellent attractive features and a pompous style and blessed personality.

Amba was determined to kill Bheeshma, she undertook severe penance to Shiva to be born as man to kill Bheeshma. Shiva said woman cannot be born as man, however he gave her a boon to become the cause of death of Bheeshma. She insisted she wanted to become man. Shiva said she would be assisted in becoming man.

Drupad prayed Lord Shiva for a son, soon Shiva appeared and said a son would be born. But a Drupad’s wife gave birth to a daughter, amused Drupad thought for a while, Shiva’s words cannot be futile, this must be some test of his faith.

So he raised the girl child as a male, he dressed her like a man and even taught her all the warfare and named as Shikhandi. When the child came of age, it was decided to marry the Prince[ss]. So neighbouring Kingdom’s King had a beautiful daughter, her hand was proposed in the marriage. Marriage took place grandly, but later bride  found that groom was actually a woman. Upset she left for her parent’s house. Parent furious addressed Drupad, [Drupad said he has raised as son and Shiva had told HIM that his child is male] and agreed for a Angapariksha or war.

Shikhandi fearing insult to her father that night went deep into the forest, deciding never to return. As she was contemplating suicide with heavy sobbing and cursing her destiny. Tumbur [Gandharva] was passing by, he was cursed by the rishi to become a woman. He was also unhappy. But seeing the plight of the Shikhandi, he offered, he would lend his body [male] to her. But the problem is a female cannot control a male body, [but a male can take a female body and control it and live in it] this is nature’s law. So Tumbur offered to control her body and she be just present in it [Tumbur offered to be present in the manner devils possess the human body]

Thus overnight Shikhandi acquired a male body, she would desire, Tumbur would carry it out for her. She came back to palace, during Angapariksha, in laws were very happy to see a man for her daughter, they scolded her for unusually doubting the groom [handsome gandharva]. Drupad thanked Shiva for a great miracle and happy to see his faith in Shiva honoured.

Shikhandi later became cause for the death of Bheeshma.

Krishnarpanamastu

7th House - Marriage Affairs Women

 By Sri Chiraan 2009/01/04

• If moon and Jupiter are in 7th from karakamsha the person will have very beautiful wife [Atisundari] 
• Venus in the seventh from karakamsha, the wife will be sensuous [Kaamvathi]
• While Mercury indicates wife well versed in arts [Kalaavathi]
• The Sun so placed will give wife well protected [Rakshitha]
• Saturn well placed will give pious wife [tapasvini]
• Saturn weak will give sick wife [rujadya]
• Saturn afflicted will give wife elder in age [Vayoadhika]
• Rahu so placed will give a wife, who is already somebody’s widow [Vidhwa]
• Seventh from upapada if there is a benefic, wife will be roopavati [beautiful], bhavya [fortunate], gunanvita[virtuous]
• Mercury and Rahu there, wife will be stout [sthulangi]
• if Mercury is in rasi of Mars then wife will have nasal disorders
• if Shani and Rahu then one will shun or desert his wife  on account of calumny

If one has vyabhichara yoga in the horoscope and if seventh house has :

1. Sun then one will have illicit relations with a barren woman
2. Moon then akin to sign, rasi [Virgo-virgins, Libra-prostitutes etc]
3. Mars then with young models
4. Mercury then with wives of rich men or traders, or harlots
5. Saturn then with workers,menials unclean etc
6. Rahu, Ketu with minors

The breasts of the would be wife will be :

1. Sick and weak if Saturn is in the seventh
2. Sun will give urdhwa kooch [prominent]
3. Jupiter will give hard [kathinstani]
4. Mars will give attractive [sustani]
5. Venus will give sthulastani [bulky and excellent]
6. Moon will give small and uneven
7. Rahu will give lambastani

The seventh navamsa if it is exalted then one will marry woman of superior race.

Bheemasena was the first to marry among Pandavas. He married even before Yudhisthira although Yudhisthira was elder, Vedvyasa appeared and urged Bheemasena to marry Hidimbi [mother of Ghatotkach].

Ulupi was a widow of a snake king from Naagloka, she was childless and hence urged Arjun to give her a child [as per her husbands’ wishes]. Arjun initially refused, but later after repeated requests obliged and Iravant was born. As he was born to a widow, he was exterminated from the land of Nagas, Ulupi raised him in Devaloka.

Iravant fought bravely in Mahabharata, while fighting Alamban both used maya to counter each other, at one stage Iravant tooka a form of a huge snake covering entire battle field and challenged Alamban, Alamban then took a form of huge Garuda and killed him. Ghatotkacha killed Alamban to avenge his brothers death.

Krishnarpanamastu

Pati, Patni aur Jyotish - [Husband, wife and Astrology]

By Sri Chiraan 2008/10/24

One of the astrological principle is , if the two people involved have friendly moon signs or ascendants , they become good friends, relationship between them is harmonious and happy. According to astrology seventh sign is that which describes wife. Seventh lord if it is friendly to ascendant lord then husband and wife will be coherent. But strangely no sign in astrology has its seventh as a friendly sign.

1. Aries < Libra               neutral/neutral
2. Taurus < Scorpio        neutral/neutral
3. Gemini < Sagittarius  enemy/enemy
4. Cancer < Capricorn    neutral/enemy
5. Leo  < Aquarius           enemy/enemy
6. Virgo < Pisces              enemy/enemy

Thus we can see nowhere friendship is found between the two signs showing this relationship can never be friendly and harmonious except when Aries / Libra Taurus / Scorpio pair have in their respective horoscopes, Venus and mars within four signs. This would make them temporary friends, and man woman can have very happy life. Incidentally, Aries / Scorpio is ruled by mars and Libra / Taurus belongs to Venus. So it is only Venus and Mars pairs that can get happy in a marriage, all others brave a at the most neutral relationship with either one of them dominating. This is perhaps a great balance levered by God to induce a person to seek other world, else man would never ever want to leave this world, when he is happy with his wife. He would like to have his time freeze forever. So what are a happy marriage combinations?

1. seventh lord exalted in kendra
2. aspect of Jupiter on seventh house
3. arudha lord and upapada lord in mutual angles
4. Jupiter in second from upapada
5. Jupiter and Moon in seventh from  karkamsa
6. Venus exalted/own house in other than seventh.
7. Venus seventh lord and seventh in Navamsa well disposed.

moon in the seventh house gives shy and soft spoken wife . Sun gives wife who is always ready to pack bags to her mother’s house. Mars gives a short tempered wife. Mercury gives  a clever and communicative  wife. Jupiter gives a pious, knowledged and well mannered wife. Venus gives a voluptuous wife with very attractive features but spoils happiness in  married life. Saturn gives if placed well a religious wife, if otherwise a sickly woman, if afflicted, an elder woman as wife.

Mars in seventh and fourth if unaspected by Jupiter shortens  marital  life. Saturn denies marriage. Saturn with Venus, aspect of Saturn on seventh or Rahu in seventh delays marriage. association of Ketu with Venus or seventh brings many obstacles in marriage. A  good wife indicates a person also enjoys good food . If somebody has abundance of Ghee and butter it indicates he will invariably marry a good girl . Those who eat in golden plates marry well. Those who are happy in marriage are also successful in transactions, travels, and almost always recover lost wealth. Marriages happen only by the will of destiny, when marriage yoga occurs irrespective of time, position and wealth ,marriages takes place. Like Draupadi marrying unknown, ordinary appearing, men; who had won her swayamvar.

King Drupad worried as to who had won the hand of his daughter, sent his son Dhrustadhyumna to spy on the Pandavas in disguise. (Pandavas were thought as dead in Laksha graha , their last rites were also performed ). Dhrushtdhyumna finds that these men, though looking like ordinary people, were speaking extraordinarily and their gaits were kingly yet they were wearing a dress of brahmins, but living like ordinary peasants. To test them Drupad prepares four houses suitable for four castes.

1. one with all the stores of articles for homa and yagnya
2. second with arms and the articles of  weaponry
3. third full of wealth/cattle
4. last full of grains and pots

Pandavas enter second one ,giving immense pleasure to Drupad ,who asks why they were living a simple life when they were kshatriyas. To this Yudhistira replied “oh King you had not declared swayamwar only for kshatriyas ,ordinary men could also take part. Now are you repenting that? ”

Then Yudhistira told they were Pandavas ,to give immense pleasure to Drupad. Though a King, Pandavas married every time they were either in exile or forest, in ordinary circumstances.

One should marry good people, giving preference to the qualities rather than pomp and show. King Manu gave away his daughter  to a Hermit in the forest ,after he came to know that he was the best in the qualities, instead of giving his daughter to a prince. Princess served her husband for many years in forest without having any  pleasure since rishi was engaged in penance. Both grew older and when rishi realised he had not given any happiness to his wife ad they had got older now , he acquired youth through penance for both himself and wife and enjoyed bodily pleasures for hundred thousand years by creating palaces , gardens, rivers through his mystical powers. and in the process creating the entire clan of human mankind. Thus is told the story of first man and woman who procreated many folds thus fortifying the belief of MANU.

sri krishnarpanamastu